Common Challenges of Grandparents Raising Their Grandchildren

If you are a grandparent who is raising your grandchildren you are facing a different kind of challenge than you did when you raised your own children. To start with you are not that bouncing young parent that you were 30 years ago and you can’t even pretend that you are. Age has a way of slowing us down and there is no way to get around the fact that we are older parents the second time around. This is not saying that we can’t do as good a job or maybe even a better job at raising kids at an older age but the physical part of keeping up is much harder. Some of the common challenges you may face as grandparents raising grandchildren are these:

  • Overcoming the financial hardship Being a grandparent is a joyous occasion but when a grandparent takes on the role of parent to their grandchildren this is a whole new responsibility. If you are still working or already retired the changes can be overwhelming. There are expenses to raising children that you don’t have in your budget anymore.
  • Your health As we get older our health is always a concern and when we start raising children again it is even more important to stay active and healthy. It may be a challenge to keep up with little children but you just have to get a regular exercise routine and stay as fit as you can.
  • Dealing with your grandchildren’s parents When a parent loses control of their children it can be hard to deal with. Your child may have been abusing drugs or not financially able to care for their children but for whatever reason it may be hard on them to. This may lead to then resenting you even though they make know their children are better off being with you until they can get things changed for the better.
  • Dealing with school and homework Have you looked at a school book lately for a second or third grader? Well I have and they are already learning things that I learned in junior high and it may be a lot harder for you to help them with their homework because they teach in different ways than we learned.

In Summary: Grandparents and grandchildren face new challenges everyday and are always looking for advise and answers to daily problems. At New Grandparents Rights we strive to help grandparents as parents in their daily lives. Visit us for some great tips and advice and grab a “FREE REPORT on Time Saving Tips”.

Grandparents’ Roles and Rights As it Affects the Grandchildren

It used to be commonplace for multi-generational families to live together with all adults having a hands-on role in the rearing of children. In those idyllic days grandparents played a special, part-time role. Nowadays many grandparents have more involved roles and it’s usually because of an unfortunate story that left no other choice.

According to current surveys, 31% of adults are grandparents. 8% of those grandparents are regularly providing day care and 3% are raising a grandchild. It is rarely ideal for a grandparent to be the primary caregiver. However, it is a situation that is on the rise and it is affecting people of all races and socioeconomic status.

When a grandparent takes on this huge responsibility, it has a life altering affect. As a result, more and more programs are being set up to assist grandparents. The government has a websites dedicated to helping grandparents.

Author Alex Haley said “Nobody can do for little children what grandparents do. Grandparents sort of sprinkle stardust over the lives of little children.” As a society we want to strive to make sure grandparents have a healthy relationship with their grandchildren, whether it’s in a traditional or expanded role.

Grandparent’s rights vary from state to state. In Illinois the law attempts to balance the traditional deference to a parent’s right to make decisions regarding their children with the reality that in many family settings grandparents are taking on a more active role in rearing grandchild, often out of necessity.

While most relationships between grandparents and grandchildren are loving and supported by the parents, there are cases where a parent objects to a relationship between their child and a grandparent. If this happens, there are legal options a grandparent can take to get visitation with their grandchild. Visitation can mean time alone with grandchildren without the child’s parent present. It can be for a few hours, or even overnight.

In Illinois a grandparent, great-grand-parent, or sibling, may request visitation with a minor child if a parent unreasonably denies visitation and at least one of the following exists:

  • The child’s other parent is dead or missing for at least 3 months;
  • One of the child’s parents is incompetent;
  • A parent has been in jail for the 3 months before making the request for visitation;
  • The child’s parents are divorced, legally separated or in the process of getting divorced and at least one parent does not object to the visitation;
  • The child was born out of wedlock, the child’s parents are not living together, and the requesting grandparent, great-grandparent or sibling is from the child’s maternal side; or
  • The child was born out of wedlock, the child’s parents are not living together and the requesting grandparent, great-grandparent or sibling is from the child’s paternal side and paternity has been established by a court.

When a grandparent requests visitation, the court will presume that the parent’s decision to deny or limit visitation is proper. This forces the grandparent to prove to the judge that the parent’s denial of visitation is harmful to the child’s mental, emotional, or physical health. If you feel you are wrongly denied access to your grandchild, contact a Family Law Attorney to learn more about your options.